Bliss doesn’t happen on its own. You’ve got to work it! Today, more and more women crave the ever-elusive dream of balance & ease in their lives. You know who you are! You work hard to care for your families, maintain healthy relationships, raise self-sufficient, successful children, support parents and relatives, build your career, take care of your home and pretty well try to make everyone happy.
But what about you? When we try to live that “do-it-all” lifestyle, many times the one person who gets left behind is the most important person of all – and that’s you. I know this is true because I’ve lived it myself! It’s time to start thinking like a true Mama Lama. The wisdom is here for your discovery. Are you ready?
“The big secret in life is that there is no big secret.
Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.”
~ Oprah Winfrey
So, what is a Mama Lama anyway?
A Mama Lama is a wise, wonderful person. She seeks wisdom and knowledge. She knows that goodness is in her heart, and she challenges herself to be the best person she can be for the good of all the lives she touches – but also for herself. Do you get where I’m going with this concept. Does it sound like a far-flung, outrageous dream to put yourself at the top of your to-do list? Can you even fathom the idea of making yourself a priority?
Well then read on…
My definition of a “Mama Lama” is multi-faceted. She is a person who lovingly takes care of others: her children, her family, her pets, her spouse or partner. She is tasked with and accepts the responsibility of taking good care of herself – it’s a very important job one that we often neglect. She is committed to seeing that her own well-being is on solid ground and her needs are met. You may meet her out in the world helping make her community a better place through her interaction with a cause she holds dear to her heart, or she’s simply the stranger that offers you a smile as you pass by.
She seeks to expand her horizons by learning new things, trying something different or meeting interesting people. She brings her friends together for fun and play, yet she knows how and when to quiet her mind and create space for herself when she needs a break. A Mama Lama is one of the most active, thoughtful, and beautiful creatures on this planet. Despite, her many responsibilities, she manages to make time to exercise and explore ways to get her heart pumping and juices flowing.
Who are we?
Mama Lamas come from all walks of life, all religions, philosophies, and creeds. Our bodies take on many shapes and sizes: tall to small, large in-charge to quiet and reserved types, and just about everything in between. We are strong in our belief systems, which are grounded in basic goodness. Our skin color reflects every magnificent, imaginable hue. We celebrate our diversity and embrace our sisterhood.
We are our family’s CEO’s, CFO’s and COO’s all wrapped up into one. We are business women, doctors, lawyers, artists, and teachers. We are stay-at-home moms and part-time career women. We instruct everything from yoga, to the next generation of thinkers and doer’s, down to the most straightforward lessons like how to tie your shoes – it’s that basic. We take our jobs very seriously because we hold humanity in the palms of our hands. That might sound dramatic, but it’s true and we all know it!
The journey to a happy life takes a little self-discovery.
My quest to discover the Mama Lama within me started over 10 years ago as I began my search for optimal health and happiness. So often I was mired in the stress of everyday life, carrying a full load of responsibility for so many things – much of which, I have to admit has been self-inflicted. Ring any bells?
Growing up, I was an adventure seeking, inquisitive child. At the same time though, I was also very nervous and unsure of myself. I realize now how my feelings of unease drove me to seek control over every situation. Let’s just say, I continue to be a “work in progress” and try very hard to seek balance and embrace change.
For me, the key to a happy life starts with healthy eating, exercise, mindfulness practice and surrounding myself with family, friends and joyful people. Your journey will be a little different because not one of us is the same. One key ingredient we all need in our mix is a gratitude practice. Waking up every day and touching upon something that is positive in our lives is so important.
Here are a few examples of what I’m grateful for – see if you can come up with a quick list.
- I am blessed with three beautiful children who encourage me every step of the way, a supportive husband, and a goofy Golden Retriever, named Finn, who takes me on a walk every day.
- I am grateful for the presence of my large extended family – except of course on Thanksgiving when the dirty dishes pile up to the ceiling and everyone is too full to move except of course, my Aunt Donna – bless her dish-doing soul.
- I am in awe and so grateful for my friends who have seen me through my many ups and downs and have been there to laugh and make fun of me when I get yet another “brilliant idea.”
It is with this love and open-heartedness that I can share my world with you. I believe in living life to the fullest and enjoying all the universe has to offer.
Naming a positive personality trait helps set the tone for joyful living.
I am naturally optimistic and am capable of seeing the good in almost any situation. Life wasn’t always easy, but this trait rooted itself into my being and has stayed with me into adulthood. That’s not to say I haven’t been pushed to the edge of grief, sorrow, and loss. Haven’t we all? I’ve been gifted with a positive outlook and can focus on what’s good and kind in the world, most of the time. What word comes to your mind? What trait do you posses – no worries if you can’t come up with it just now. We’ll get there.
I am open to new experiences and will encourage you to be open to new information and ways of thinking. It is in this openness that we will learn tricks to shift our perspective towards happiness and joy through small adjustments in our point of view. A joyful life is easy; you simply have to let go of the way you think things should be – and instead be open to every experience life has to offer – right here, right now, the good and the bad. It is my wish to guide you on this journey towards health and happiness and help you find your way, just as I’ve found mine.
Life isn’t always a bed of roses.
Like you, and everyone else you’ll ever meet, I’ve had my share of struggles, which I’ll share with you in future articles as we delve into this idea of happiness and joy. I hope you’ll share yours too, so we can all grown together. In the words of Jack Kornfield, “Is there anyone out there who hasn’t suffered? Please raise your hand, Oh, no hands, I thought not.” He uses that line quite often in his talks and podcasts, and for some reason, it tickles me every time.
Of course, there were no hands in the air. Life is full of challenges. Sometimes it’s the cards we’re dealt, and sometimes we create our own turmoil and unknowingly spread it around. I’m here to tell you that there are ways to cut through the mud and come out on the other side as a Happy Mama Lama – Wise and Strong, in charge of your own happiness, joy, and destiny.
Next Steps…Finding the joy within!
Sign up and get on the email list, join in the discussion, try something new and report back to us. Each week, The Mama Lama Wisdom Collective will share new ideas with the Tribe. As we search together for answers, we will move onto topics like meditation & mindfulness, habits, and repeating patterns in your life. Subjects like defeating negative self-talk will come up, as we investigate ways to become our own best friend and not our worst enemy. We will discuss how we can use the Mama Lama Community to lift us up and expand our horizons. We’ll talk about ways we can support not only ourselves but also those in the greater community – Mama Lamas your impact can be far-reaching!
Together, we’re going to learn a thing or two as this journey unfolds. The time is right, let’s jump in and discover this together! Are you ready to embark on a crazy, wild ride?
Looking forward to our Adventure!
Chris – “The Happy Mama Lama”